I hate video games but it’s not about me.
When I first got married, it was all about me. I hated video games because I thought they were boring, unproductive and a waste of time, money and brain power.
It may be the same way you feel about watching sports for hours on end, hunting season or your spouses Netflix binge choice.
I realized pretty quickly that it didn’t matter what I thought about video games because it wasn’t about me. My husband worked 40 hours a week and was in school full time. His downtime was video games with his friends just like my downtime was shopping, hanging with friends, social media and working on my hobbies.
It’s not about what I like or dislike or what he likes or dislikes. It’s about recognizing what bring your partner joy and supporting that. It’s about allowing them space to do what they enjoy instead of only working. So they can be their best self.
With that being said, boundaries are important. My husband has set rules for himself with video games, and I follow them too if I choose to spend my night on a Netflix binge.
- Spouse and parenting responsibilities always come first. If you stay up until 4am, you still wake up at 8am with the family…and pray fervently that the kids will sleep until 10am 😉
- No bad moods caused by controlled lack of sleep.
- Household chores and routines are taken care of first. Dishes, rotating laundry, picking up, etc.
- Make sure you aren’t bailing on your spouse and leaving them alone. Do they have something to do? Sleep? Girls night? A hobby they want to work on?
- Moderation in all things
Video games aren’t for everyone. Neither are endless sports, hunting, shopping, photography or Instagram surfing. But if they’re important to your spouse, look for ways to make it work with your family before cutting them out.
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Kylee started Kylee Ann Photography 9 years ago, and has since grown from a one woman amateur show to a full associate team. We shoot 50-75 weddings a year, and thrive on kindness and service. After a year of teaching Intro to Photography at the local technical college, she discovered that helping other entrepreneurs create thriving businesses is what fires her up! She hosts semi-annual Kylee Ann Sleepovers all over the US, speak at conferences and teach online courses about running a small business and marketing.
July 31, 2018
Kylee Maughan
