The MAGIC

Dating. This is such a wonderful time: fresh flowers, sweet notes, fancy dates, cuddling, and lots and lots of kisses. Then comes marriage – an even more wonderful time. To have love so strong that a couple promises and commits to loving one another always is incredible. You get to spend forever with your spouse. Your lives now get to be planned together and you are one. But as we start to fall into a routine our days begin to blend. Often kids come along and make life even more hectic. Suddenly, our marriages go from one-on-one dates and dancing around the house, to eating at Chilis with all three kids crying and screaming then getting home and throwing them into bed only to sit on the couch, too exhausted to even turn on the T.V. Where did that MAGIC go? It is time to bring it back!!!!

Date Night

One of the best ways to bring back the magic? Date night. You and your spouse not only want, but NEED that one-on-one time. Pretend you have just met! Go to you favorite places or try something new. It doesn’t really matter as long as you are together.

“Date nights are so important. In fact they are critical,” psychologist and relationship expert Melanie Schilling told The Huffington Post Australia.

“I would even broaden that out a bit and say a date night doesn’t have to mean getting a babysitter and going to the movies. It can be something you can do at home, such as a screen-free night once a week. Basically, carving out the time to be just focused on each other. If you can manage that once a week, you’re doing really well. Once a fortnight is great too.”

Whether you stay at home or head out, make time for your significant other. Fall in love all over again. Bring the MAGIC back.

Some of the best date night idea links whether you are at home or going out!

Love Language

What better way to add magic back into your marriage than with learning one another’s LOVE LANGUAGE. This was the topic of my last Marriage Tip blog, and I am bringing it back because I had such an incredible experience with my husband after doing this.

It is pretty simple. Just take an easy 30 questions quiz – and at the end, it will explain to you how you like your partner to show you that they love you. For me, I feel loved when my hubby and I work on a project together, accomplish a task, and see what great things we can create! He needs to feel loved with back rubs, hugs, hand holding, and all other types of physical affection. It is a great quiz to do as part of a date night. The Love Language quiz helped both my husband and I learn more about one another! We now can meet each other’s needs much more affectively. And after we did this together, my husband expressed to me how he just keeps falling in love with me over and over again. The Love Languages WORK!

Finding a Similar Hobby

What do you and your spouse BOTH enjoy doing? It can be anything from working out in the morning to baking pies. Find something that you are both interested in and make it a goal to do that with your spouse at least once a week.

Finding a hobby that you both enjoy is important. You need to be able to spend time with and enjoy your significant other!

Not sure if you and your spouse have a similar hobby? No problem! Do some backtracking by yourself or out loud with your spouse about what you both enjoyed to do together when you were dating. You can often find an activity that both of you are excited about! But what if your interests have changed since then? I recommend going to THIS site! It has a list of 300+ hobbies. When you find one that you and your spouse think might be fun to learn about, click on it! There is an explanation about the hobby and lots of info about how to get started. Try some of these new things with your partner. There will be some you will only do once, and some that will become a lifetime bonding experience.

Magic, Made With T-I-M-E

If you are looking for that little bit of magic to come back into your relationship, you need to be willing to spend some time. Date nights, love language, and hobbies all require you to take some TIME out of your busy life and spend it on the one who matters most. Here is to the Magic!