• Do you ever feel like your partner just doesn’t get you? If you haven’t yet, the day will come! The important thing to understand is that this is NORMAL. You aren’t going to marry an exact replica of yourself. We all think differently.

So should we just give up all hope of ever being understood? Absolutely not.

This is where the 5 Love Languages come in. The theory is that everyone feels loved and appreciated in different ways. All you have to do is take a 30 question quiz, and when you are finished it will tell you how you best feel loved. It is a very simple quiz with questions like “What would you prefer, a back massage or meaningful talk?” It took me about 3 minutes to complete. And when you finish, if will tell you which of the 5 love languages means the most to you. They are:

1. WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
2. ACTS OF SERVICE
3. RECEIVING GIFTS
4. QUALITY TIME
5. PHYSICAL TOUCH

My husband and I took this quiz. His love language was Physical Touch and mine was Acts of Service. After being married for 18 months, this was a game changer. For the first year and a half of marriage, I was showing him that I loved him by helping him with dishes and cleaning out his car. To him, those were nice things, but they didn’t actually make him feel LOVED. My husband wanted me to hold his hand, rub his shoulders, or give him a hug before he left for work. WHAT. I had no idea! And he was very surprised to learn that hanging his coat up in his closet instead of throwing it over the couch, made me feel appreciated and cared about. Because of this simple quiz, our relationship grew in ways I didn’t realize it could. Try it for yourself!

Learn You Love Language Here

Dr. Gary Chapman has an Online Quiz and PDF Version available. What a perfect way to spice up date night and really strengthen your relationship!